"Everything you need is right inside of you"

- Nut Tmu-Ankh Butterfly

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Interactive Erotic Education

This not-so-new modality, of which I am one of the co-founders, is taking applications for our third annual cohort. We are beyond delighted with the passion, engagement, and integrity of our students and graduates. I look forward to supporting many more craft their own unique ways to support clients by offering a two way touch educational container.

Audio Guided Practices

I am frequently praised for the quality of my guided practices, with the sound and cadence of my voice cited as the primary reason.

My voice has dropped considerably in the last 6 months (thanks testosterone) making it even softer and more soothing.

So it's time, coming soon is a series of guided practices you can use, for free, at your leisure.

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Mission

I desire for all people to have access to the skills, find the courage, and experience the freedom they need to build the life they want for themselves

Approach

Foundational to all my work is a trauma-informed approach that values agency, the integration of mind body experiences, and moving at the pace of the nervous system, as the bedrock to effecting lasting change in all contexts.

Vision

To offer an innovative body of work that fearlessly challenges perceived internal limitations, and supports individuals and groups to deconstruct received notions of how to live in order to build their own versions of a life well lived.

What else...?

‘Everything you need is right inside of you” – this quote was profoundly influential in my unfolding, and I still believe strongly in the truth of it’s message, but you might ask – if that’s the case, what do I need you for?

In a world with so many demands from such an early age, we quickly move far away from our true self – showing only those parts of us that get approval from our caregivers and hiding those parts that don’t. This is wise strategy for a child, but as an adult some of these learned strategies need examining, and we can find new ways of being that bring about greater ease in ourselves.

Indeed, in adulthood many of us find ourselves so entrenched in dualistic beliefs of right and wrong, that we aren’t really feeling our feelings, only the reactive states we have in response to our feelings e.g. we like it, we want more, we don’t like it, we want less.

We are meaning making creatures who often feel so uneasy in the face of uncertainty that we succumb to patterns of thinking our logical brain thinks keep us safe. The dis-ease that results manifesting in chaos or rigidity may be why you are here reading this now.

So what do we do? The way I work is process-orientated, and I start with the premise that you are not broken, and what you bring is all okay.

Every. Single. Time.

And then we get really curious

We get curious about what it’s like to be you, right now. These are embodied sessions* where you learn to engage your whole self. We welcome your thoughts, your emotions, your body sensations, images that appear to you. We intend to notice these objectively and with kindness. We also employ somatic practices† that arise from the experience you are having, and we experiment with them – again, with curiosity. This approach brings fresh insights to stale situations. It can be surprising, and with a curious attitude we can discover innate emergent processes in you, that may have become stuck along the way.

The space we co-create is one where every part of you is invited and welcome – I welcome your pain, the not-knowing, your shame, your success, your joy, and your knowing. Ultimately you are the sovereign author of you, and you will know when you land on an experience that feels right for you.

*Embodied means that we notice not only the words that you bring into session but the internal sensations and body patterns that we notice, in combination, which add up to a sense of ‘knowing’. What this means is that we are trying to find ways for you to connect with the experience of being ‘in your whole self’ now. Some people will come to this quite easily. For others, for many reasons, maintaining attention and open curiosity on internal sensations can be a challenge, or even impossible. Wherever you’re at with that is fine.

†Somatic practices & interventions work with the whole body / mind. They can include movement, sound, touch, placement of awareness and breath.

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Online Embodied Counselling and EMDR

Who wants to live with more ease?

Do you feel stuck, in relationships, in unwanted habits, in purpose?
Are you having difficulty regulating your emotions?
Do you want to set and maintain healthier boundaries?
Are your relationships (children, family, partner, friends, colleagues) suffering in ways that you can’t make sense of?
Is a past trauma impacting your life now?*
Are you struggling to identify your needs or get them met?
Are you noticing repetitive behaviour life themes you’d like to change?
Do you want to be fully engaged with the people around you?
Do you feel unworthy, damaged, or broken?
Do your feelings lead to becoming overwhelmed, ashamed or collapsed?
Do you experience sensory sensitivities that impact your ability to socialise and connect with others? †
Are you looking for therapy where you can be really open about sex / BDSM / alternative relationship styles?

* Signs you might be dealing with some traumatic memory in your body: anxiety, depression, self-loathing, nightmares, flashbacks, addictive / compulsive behaviors, reactivity, unexplained angry outbursts, being unable to fully open your heart to another human, forgetfulness / brain fog.

Online Sex Coaching

Who wants better sex?

Do you want to get more from your sex life or your relationship with your own body?
Are you interested in accessing more pleasure?
Would you like bigger, longer, better orgasms?
Do you struggle to stay present in sex? Does shame, self-doubt, or boredom show up?
Do you feel you are becoming too reliant on porn to stimulate your eroticism?
Are you recovering from trauma and looking for ways to safely reconnect with your pleasure?
Do you struggle to orgasm, or orgasm too quickly?
Are you questioning your sexuality, your gender, or your sexual preferences?
Do you have body image issues, and would like to tune into yourself in a more loving way?
Are you curious about BDSM / kink, and need a safe place to discuss your desires / fantasies?
Do you struggle to communicate your needs and desires in sex, or struggle to set and maintain boundaries?
Do you need a space to debrief a sexual encounter with someone you don’t need to explain yourself to, or justify what happened?

In online sex coaching sessions we will work collaboratively and with curiosity to help you move along your path of sexual development towards fulfillment.

Online sessions can be very powerful, as I can guide you in all the ways I would in person to utilise all the skills available in a one-way touch somatic sex education session. If it is beneficial to your learning you will be guided to touch yourself in carefully selected practices. Meeting you in your own home brings the benefit of you experiencing new practices in the space where you will continue your practice, helping lay down new neural pathways together in the environment familiar to you.

Interactive Erotic Growth

How else can I get better sex?

These sessions are rare and offer a unique approach to practicing skills relationally. We can do online sex coaching and one-way-touch practices, but something changes when we bring another person's pleasure into the equation.

Using play and experimental practices we get to re-write what pleasurable partnered play looks like. Forget cultural and gendered scripts, forget porn, forget the sex education you didn't have. Here, we start again.

These are my version of the Interactive Erotic Educator professional training I deliver, and integrate all I have learned in somatic sex education, consent training, sexual exploration, FSSW and Pro-Kink work.

Safer Touch - Fundamentals for a trauma informed approach

This program is perfect for you if...

You are in clinical practice, allied health, or complementary touch therapies (including sex work), or any individual committed to your care for the people you touch.

Join me somatic distance learning event where we will explore an embodied approach to understanding trauma, how it impacts our clients, how to notice the signs and symptoms of a trauma response, and how to be with a person experiencing them.

Why this workshop?

I believe that if you work with human bodies you will, at some point, have had a client experience a trauma response in your clinic or on your table. Not because you were working incorrectly in your field of expertise, not because you broke any ethical code, simply because many people live with the ongoing effects of trauma.

When this happened, it’s my premise that, one of three things followed:

You can recall witnessing it happen – great, well done for spotting the signs, did you know what to do next?
You can’t recall it happening and you never heard from the client – you probably never will.
You can’t recall it happening but the client (or friend of the client) reported it to you afterwards.

This course will focus on helping you make scenario 1 become more common for you, and give you tools for what to do next.

It moves beyond blame and focusses on the relationship, between practitioner and client, as the key factor that differentiates between a trauma response that is retraumatizing, and a trauma response that can form part of building trust and healing.

In this 9 hour interactive training you will learn about:

The neurobiology of safety and trauma, through the lens of two main scientific models; Stephen Porges’ Poly Vagal Theory, and Dan Siegel’s Window of Tolerance
The benefits and scope of a trauma-informed practice
The anatomy of the brain through visual, kinaesthetic and metaphorical learning lenses
Consent; moving beyond yes & no, and disclaimers
How power dynamics and individual lived experience affect the way we practice our profession
The symptoms and signs of nervous system dysregulation
The power of co-regulation and coming back to safety together
Repairing ruptures in the relationship and gaining clients’ trust and loyalty
How you can improve your own nervous system awareness to benefit yourself, your clients and the world.

What to expect

This training takes place online, over three x 3 hour sessions, held one week apart. This allows for learning to integrate in between classes, as you implement it in your life and practice.

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You will receive a Supplementary Course Handbook 48 hours before the start of the sessions. You are not required to read it all before the sessions, but you may if it suits your learning style. We will refer to in session so printing may be beneficial. It is yours to keep and revisit and support your learning.

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As this is an interactive training, not a webinar, we ask all participants to intend to have their cameras on, to the degree this is comfortable for you. If you need to take space off screen, this is also welcome. You will be invited to engage in small group activities, so far as you feel comfortable to do so. No one will be asked to do anything they do not want to.

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The facilitator, Jules, will be available for 15 minutes after each training session should any participants wish to debrief their experience of the content.

Client Stories

What Clients Say

“Loved the clear, structured delivery of the course, Jules has a magnificent way to deepen self-reflection and self-awareness. No fluff, straight to the point.”

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